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Journey To Tranquility

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Journey to Tranquility

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When Its Just Not Happening, Look For The Reason Why

Posted on 27 April, 2019 at 15:14 Comments comments (69)
Is there something that is just not happening in your life that you want so badly? My experience of life is that there is always a good reason why things are not happening as you would wish. My belief is that life, the universe, God or whatever you may call the creative force behind our reality has always got our best interests at heart, even when it involves us learning hard or painful lessons. The saying 'every cloud has a silver lining' has been proven to be true over and over again, even with deeply painful experiences.

If you are being held in job, relationship or situation that you would rather not be in, find out what there is to learn about yourself or what deeper wisdom could be trying to reveal itself. We often think that 'if I could just be in a different job, relationship or situation, I would be much happier'. However the problems you perceive will surely follow you wherever you go  because they are caused from within. We attract the reality that matches our own beliefs; so if you believe that people are unkind, that is what you will experience. If you believe that you are unlovable, you are unlikely to experience true, abiding love in your life. If you believe that true happiness is unachievable, guess what..?

Beliefs are laid down very early in life, before the age of 7. They are then added to and modified by repetition and the creation of habits. They can be positive beliefs, such as 'I can achieve anything I put my mind to' or limiting beliefs such as 'I can never get anything right' or 'I am unlovable'. Either way, you will attract what you believe in, because that is how your brain is wired. The Reticular Activating System or RAS as it is also known is the part of your brain that takes what you focus on most (i.e. what you have told it is important to you) and creates a filter for it. So that out of the trillions of pieces of information that it filters every day, it only presents to your conscious mind the bits important to you. Or in other words, in an infinite field of possibilities, you will only get what you expect to get. You may be aware of some of the self-sabotaging beliefs you hold , but some you may  not be aware of because they are buried deep in your subconscious mind. The best indicator is to look at where your life flows well and the areas where it does not flow well. The latter is a strong indicator that there are limiting beliefs operating.

It is important at this point to note that you can change that subconscious programming. The Journey™ method developed by Brandon Bays is one very effective way of getting to the core life experience that set the limiting beliefs in play and realising that they are outdated and no longer serve you well. Through conscious intervention with the subconscious mind, you can then access the deeper, more empowering truth about your own inner potential and this becomes the new operating system for the RAS.

So if you are willing to do the internal personal development work to discover what is truly holding you back the silver lining is that you discover a deeper, richer, more empowering version of yourself which in turn will enrich your life experiences from that point.

Sometimes it seems that life throws us a curve ball, just when we were enjoying our current life situation. It may be difficult for a while to see the justice or the benefit in what may appear a cruel or unnecessary turn of events. We may struggle to let go of the version of reality that we had so invested in, to see the benefits of what it is being replaced with. I think it is useful to look to the natural world in these situations and understand that nature creates, forms, brings to fruition many beautiful states of reality. Then in the natural course of the cycle, it breaks down, destroys, lays fallow and then starts the whole creation process again. We are also organic creatures, part of the energy flow of creation and as much a part of this creative cycle as the natural world. I see that when one form of reality has run its course or served its purpose, a higher consciousness then steps in to break that down or remove it from us, so that a new opportunity for growth and nurturing can arise.

I have observed this with both natural and personal disasters; it often brings out the kindness in people's natures, motivates new ventures for the greater good of the self or humanity and highlights what needs to change in order to bring about a better world.

It may be difficult to see the benefit in for example losing a life partner, parent or family member, we may feel angry or devastated about this loss and it is important to honour these feelings and take the time to grieve. In this way, we allow our natural emotions to flow through us and be released. When we do not allow our emotions to be expressed; if we avoid them or distract ourselves, they interrupt the natural biochemistry of the body, causing blockages at a cellular level which can eventually result in dysfunction of the body, illness or disease. The natural programming of the body is to maintain homeostasis or balance in all of its functions at a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. The only thing that prevents this balance is when we hold onto versions of our story from the past, or future versions of our story that we would like to materialise. Non acceptance of 'what is' is like having an argument with reality. it keeps us in resistance and as the saying goes: 'what we resist, will persist'! (Carl Jung). It's the same principle as 'what you focus on the most is what you attract more of'. So take the time to honour and grieve for your loved ones, then lovingly make the decision when it feels right for you, to move on with your life. Not moving on is like a form of self-abuse, to refuse to look for happiness in your life points to deeply self-sabotaging emotional drivers that are keeping you trapped in this state - something to reflect on if this applies to you.

So to return to my original point that I believe there is a purpose for the greater good in everything that either happens or doesn't happen; it may take some time maybe even years for that greater purpose to become apparent. However if you are willing to suspend judgement and focus on what's good in your life, you will find true peace of mind and happiness in each moment. Go well, may you find the peace and happiness in your life that you truly deserve.


1. Bruce Lipton talking about this:

2. There are also lots of other useful resources here:

Navigating the Gap

Posted on 3 December, 2018 at 15:40 Comments comments (68)
An unexpected and slightly uncomfortable phenomenon has overshadowed me for the last couple of a complementary therapist, I went from knowing what my calling in life was, to suddenly finding that all the enthusiasm and passion had disappeared. I no longer felt motivated to offer healing treatments, which had for a long time been such an important part of my own sense of purpose. This was confusing, dismaying and left me feeling directionless, without a purpose in life.

It started with a growing awareness in quiet moments that what I was doing no longer felt fulfilling to me. It could be that I just needed to take a break and refresh my perspective on things. But I also sensed  at a deeper level that this felt more like something in my being was in transition, evolving. It felt like it was time to explore new experiences, investigate the deeper meaning of life.

The wisdom I was following said that in order to find true fulfilment in life, find your passion and follow it - follow your joy.  The reason for this is because your passion and joy are powered by intention, attention and motivation - all of which provide the powerhouse leading to that sense of fulfilment.

Always one to be curious about life and to embrace new ideas, I set myself on a quest to follow the direction of my attention, my passion and joy to find out where it was leading me.

I was becoming more aware that everything is energy in some form or another, so the key to health, well being and happiness must lie with understanding and managing our own personal energy and how we relate to everything in our environment.

 I felt strongly drawn to take part in a 'Sacred Chants and Shamanic Wisdom' expedition in Peru that came to my attention. Shamanism is an ancient healing tradition and moreover, a way of life. It is a way to connect with nature and all of creation. One of the key aspects of Shamanic wisdom is the use of 'energy medicine'. The shamans throughout the ages knew how to heal using a holistic approach long before what they were doing could be explained by science. They knew how to live in harmony with the natural environment and how important it is to do so. We are all part of the same ecosystem; disrupt one part and there is a knock on effect to the other parts. So I took up this opportunity and had the most amazing, heart opening, inspiring time that I feel has shifted my energy and opened my awareness in a very positive way.

Each day we were taking part in sacred ceremony which honoured the earth, sky, all four directions, ourselves and all the creatures that live upon this earth. We were consciously deciding what within ourselves we were ready to let go of, that was not serving us well and what healthy states of being we would like to welcome in. The process was deeply cathartic, very moving and felt very liberating.

Each day we were also taking part in sacred chants and mantra concerts. Jonathan Goldman, in his book Healing Sounds, talks about a formula for sound healing: Intention + Frequency = Healing. When a person sings mantras, the essence of their entire vibration is contained in the sound and acts like a homeopathic remedy to the group and even to the world. The frequency of sound moves in concentric circles out from its origin and affects the vibration of anyone in the field. Chanting mantras stimulates the endocrine system; the act of your tongue pressing against the palate of the mouth stimulates the hypothalamus, thalamus, and pituitary. This vibration releases chemical hormones that balance the body and have healing effects. All sound has an effect on your molecular structure.

How could one fail to be affected positively by this week of what I can only describe as blissful experience? The content was a wonderful fusion of wisdom and experiences from the ancient tribes of the Amazon and the mantras of the Hindu Vedic tradition. Both traditions acknowledge that to maintain health and well being, we need to engage with the more subtler energies within us and around us. This was just what I had been becoming aware of for the past year; that energy medicine is the key to the future health and wholeness of every living being, creature and the natural world on this planet.

Later in the summer I also felt drawn to take some time living 'off grid' at the Lammas eco village in West Wales. My whole being seemed to yearn for more connection with the natural world, the opportunity to live closer to nature; I knew that such moments in the past had filled me with such a joy to be alive that this must be very important to my physical and emotional well being.

During my time there, I worked on the land, contributed and felt part of a community and took part in an amazing full moon campfire music jam. All of this experience was speaking to me very strongly about the sort of environment, activities and people that make my heart sing and feed my soul. The physical and mental effect on my body was noticeable - I felt energised, inspired and buzzing with joy.

As the summer drew to a close, I felt a glow of inspiration that perhaps West Wales could be my spiritual home and somewhere I would want to be living.

Then the fear and doubt crept in! What if.. what if.. what if... my balloon of happiness felt quite deflated! Yet the option to do nothing and stay in my present home, surrounded by buildings, roads, cars, traffic also feels untenable. So one thing I do know for certain; to nourish and give sustenance to my body and being, my dearest wish is to live in a more rural, less congested environment, connect more with like minded people and I intend to make that happen.

West Wales is a long way from my own family, I have many moments of wondering whether I am crazy to be even contemplating such a move and yet I also know I have to be true to my own heart in order to live the most fulfilling life.

So until I can see my way forward clearly, I am staying focused on the kind of environment, home, life and community I would like for myself and look for all the opportunities in the present to experience that joyfulness. I am also happy to find that my passion for helping people to feel better and heal has returned. Sometimes you have to go away from something in order to come back more fully appreciating its value and able to bring a new depth to the experience. I feel that there will be new services to offer in the future and that my healing work can have more depth and creativity now. 

I also keep on preparing and clearing my home for a move. Past experience has shown me that if I continue to mentally 'cast my net out' in terms of research, enquiries and testing things out, sooner or later the solution will appear. It is a fact of quantum physics that what you put your attention on most frequently and clearly will manifest in your physical reality (don't take my word for it, check it out).

Deepak Chopra talks about how 'the brain strengthens or weakens in specific areas depending on the input it receives, and paying attention provides concentrated input'. He also said that there are some basic requirements to be met. The first is being centred as distraction is self-defeating. Secondly, awareness focuses naturally when you have a desire; we focus on what we want. Thirdly, attention works best when combined with intention – envisioning a way to fulfil your desire. When the three ingredients come together – you are centred, you have a desire, you intend to fulfil your desire – attention becomes extremely powerful.

Then your reticular activating system can get to work finding the answer to your desire and intention..whaat?? I hear you say!  The RAS as it is also known is the part of your brain that takes what you focus on most (i.e. what you have told it is important to you) and creates a filter for it. So that out of the trillions of pieces of information that it filters every day, it only presents to your conscious mind the bits important to you. Pretty cool huh?! That is why when you buy a new car, you suddenly see all the other cars on the road that are the same as yours. Or why you can tune out a noisy room of people, but hear your own name being called.

Once you know this, you can begin to consciously influence your RAS to find what you are looking for. There is a way to consciously influence your reality, when you stay focused on what you desire for yourself. Lynne McTaggart, best selling author and renowned authority on the power of Intention advises that there are a number of factors that will give your intentions the best chance of success; practise staying focused, be specific in what you are asking for, mentally rehearse & visualise the outcome with all of your five senses, believe in the process, keep firmly fixed in your mind your desired outcome and stay positive. Then move aside and let the universe sort it out.

All of this scientific research and knowledge gives me reassurance that I really can be master of my destiny if I follow the principles outlined above. In my own experience, it is very important not to be swayed or negatively influenced by the seeming impossibility of your intention, or the absence of a visible solution. The Universe really does move in mysterious ways and many seemingly impossible situations have resolved themselves quite unexpectedly when there is a strong enough desire for something. And in the meantime it is very important to focus on the positives in the present situation and the joys, of which there are many to be found if you but look! 

I hope you can see some parallels in my story applicable in your own life and that it may help you to review any changes you would like to make to stay true to your own sense of purpose. Go well, be happy, love life. 
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One Person's Journey To Healing

Posted on 30 May, 2016 at 18:25 Comments comments (153)
The following is a description by one of my Journey clients, of her experience of healing through Journey work. It should be stressed that everyone experiences Journey work differently because of the different and unique ways our minds process information, but this is a wonderful account of one person's Journey to healing. 

The Journey - My Journey

Three years ago I developed post traumatic stress (PTSD) after a relatively minor scalding accident on a flight from business in Moscow. Boiling coffee was spilled all over my right thigh... I was not given any first aid and until landing three hours later, was treating myself with ice in the aircraft toilet... When the blisters started developing and I looked at myself in the mirror seeing sheer horror in my eyes, I knew I was in trouble... In my own mind I was referring to another scalding accident when I was three. That accident left me fighting for life for weeks. This was followed by a year of skin graft operations to save me from disability. Consequently 25% of my body is severely scarred, forever...
This, small by comparison wound was slow to heal, like all scalds. It was six weeks before the dressings came off. But that wasn't the real issue. Without a warning, a powerful and overwhelming "feeling" like nothing ever before started flooding my consciousness, so powerful that I could only describe it as a tsunami of an unknown emotion. Out of the blue, it would grab me by the throat and leave me shocked and in tears. I worked then in a demanding role... Normally I loved my job but after the flight accident I started feeling under enormous strain and under toxic stress... Three months after the accident on the flight I could no longer pretend all was well. I could not continue working and went off sick with PTSD...
Just before I broke down, I spoke to my Mum. She told me that after the childhood accident I was not admitted to a hospital... She told me how I was cared for at home, with drips and transfusions directly from my parents... How I was on and off unconscious for six weeks... How Mum was afraid to wake up for fear of finding me dead in the morning... Well, I suppose it was the harsh reality of the 1957 communist Poland - they were not to waste resources and medicines on a child that was to die, were they?
The trouble (or blessing?) was that I did not know that I wasn't admitted to hospital, uncared for, rejected by the professionals and left for dead. I was too young to remember and as my parents saw their kid recovering well, developing OK and doing alright in school and life in general, why would they want to remind me of the neglect?... Consequently, I didn't know until I was 58 years old, when my Mum told me after my flight accident. When Mum told her story, I don't know why, but it felt like the ground slipped from under my feet... things started troubling me then even more and finally I just couldn't carry on as normal.
The truth was, the child-me inside my subconscious knew about the neglect, she was angry with the people who left her for dead, she was even troubled by it... Except that the adult-me didn't have a conscious memory of it all and the child-me couldn't tell the adult the truth.
First I thought I just needed "a rest". So I did rest... Well, at least I tried. But I could not sleep and was forever anxious and afraid of something... Everything really! I had fear stuck firmly in my belly even though I did not know what I was afraid of. As days went by, I knew I needed to do something to get better as by then I realised that I must be experiencing a delayed post traumatic stress related not to the minor scald on the flight but the major scalding in my early childhood. The two scalding accidents somehow synergised in my subconscious and the flight accident triggered something... As if it said to me: "enough is enough, you can no longer pretend that THAT trauma is not bothering you again". I needed healing.
So I started searching for help... Talked to the doctors, engaged in counselling, got some medication. My GP referred me to a psychiatrist and she understood I would not recover unless I could sleep; the antidepressants she prescribed for sleep prepared the ground for the "major works"...
Then Sandra stepped in. She supported me through the PTSD struggle as a friend but she could clearly see that whatever I was doing, wasn't working. Sandra then suggested I try The Journey, a visualisation therapy which she is trained in. Sandra is a friend, but I knew her for years in her previous scientific role in GlaxoSmithKline and trusted her as a professional, in her changed profession as a health and well being therapist. I didn't know anything about the therapy but would try anything to get out of the hell I was trapped in...
So I read about The Journey. I always believed in the power of mind so the theory sounded very encouraging to me. Then Sandra took me on it... The Journey session took only three hours but it was a very powerful healing process. Three hours of challenging myself in my own mind in, what I can only describe as visions or dreams. Jumping through imaginary fires, dropping down imaginary vertical tunnels, jumping off cliffs and over furious sea waves, onto a beach, resting by the fire? I now think nothing of such adventures!...
That's when the real work began. There, by the fire on a beach the adult-me met the child-me, the child-me met the hospital doctor, the one who left her for dead... The three year old child-me punched him, kicked him to the ground, asked him to get up and go back into the darkness, where he belongs... It was quite comical actually!... And all that within the safety of my own mind. I met Mum and Dad by the fire too, and all the people that matter. Then the child-me and the adult-me gave each other a hug.; finally the child-me felt safe with the adult-me... But before the end of the session I found a big pot full of black thick goo... Sandra wanted me to wash it away or maybe suck it out with vacuum... I couldn't, it was too thick. I couldn't pour it, or take it out with my hands, wash it or suck it out...
It wasn't the end though. For two weeks after the session my head was still "on fire". A few days after the therapy my silver rings turned black! I knew from my brother, who is a jeweller that some people's skin polishes silver and others tarnish it. Mine always polished my silver. He loved me wearing his jewellery because my skin made it shine... Until now! Some powerful physical processes must have gone on in my body to release substances through my skin to blacken the silver. It made me realise that the "feelings of trauma" must have been stuck in my cells' memory all those years and were only released following The Journey.
Finally, after two weeks I started feeling better. I still went through a number of fights in my mind to sleigh lots of "dragons, monsters and scary anacondas" that represented my fears and phobias... I used Sandra's visualisation technique on myself, just as Sandra did during the initial Journey... In the end I forgave the doctor and let him rest in peace. I forgave my Mum and Dad too, that they did not protect me from the horror I went through, even though I never thought I had anything to forgive them for - they did so much for me! Still, Sandra asked me to check and once I did, I knew it was the right thing to do.
Then the black goo... It was there for two weeks, too, until I finally managed to "vaporise" it with an imaginary laser. No more legacy of trauma... No more fear... No more anger or anxiety.
I know, it all sounds bizarre but it was a real process. Real to me and that's all that matters.
I cannot thank Sandra enough, a skilled and empathetic professional for giving me freedom from the effects of deeply seated trauma.
Now I don't only feel free - I am free! Thank you Sandra ❤️

 I would encourage anyone who'd like to resolve some troublesome emotional or mental issues in their life to try The Journey, a visualisation therapy. It has scientific credentials and more and more psychotherapists practice it. I know that because I've recently needed psychotherapy again, when, after a corrective surgery on my old scars, I developed some "mushy" feelings and "wobbly knees" again... The hospital psychotherapist was very interested to hear about my experience of visualisation; he knows of it and recognises its positive effects. Still, without any bias I can say with my hand on heart that The Journey healed me, whilst counselling, medication or therapy just helped.

The Rush Of Life

Posted on 9 March, 2016 at 17:01 Comments comments (54)
We are all in such a rush these days - I've just driven home in rush hour traffic, where everyone on the road was in a tearing hurry to get somewhere and woe betide anyone in their way!

The theme of always seeming to be in a rush has come up strongly for me recently. A few weeks ago I was given a very salutary lesson in just what the consequences can be when the car in front of me unexpectedly stood on the brakes and I was very quickly made aware of what happens when you dont keep a safe stopping distance behind! The inevitable crunch happened, no-one hurt thank goodness but the upshot was that my car was written off as uneconomical to repair.

The impact not only on my beautiful car which I loved, but on my daily life over the last few weeks has been enormous. From the strong emotions this incident has thrown up, to the practicalities of having to find another car and stay mobile because my work and leisure activities depend on it, there have been many repercussions.

And yet my inner wisdom knows that this sledgehammer event came to teach me a great lesson, something that I have actually wished for; to be able to live from a place of inner peace and tranquility whatever is happening externally. I wished for the ability to truly take life in my stride and not be drawn into self-imposed conditions which themselves create unnecessary pressures in life.

So when I view this incident 'from the balcony', the picture opens out and I can see that the teaching it brings is deep. It brings my attention to a realisation that inner peace comes from a slowing down so that each moment can be enjoyed on its own merit. Stuck in traffic? Late for an appointment? Accept it.. enjoy the opportunity it brings to listen to some lovely music or tune into your body/mind. The mind/body gets lonely when you dont pay it attention  to it you know! When you don't listen to the vital messages it tries to communicate to you about the state of your own life, health and well-being.

When we rush through life, we fail to enjoy the only moment that really matters - this moment. Think about it - the only problems we truly have are all either in the past (and we still torture ourselves with them time and time again!) or in the future (screenplays we run of fearful events that probably won't even happen)!

Try it now. Focus your attention on this moment; the sounds, scents, images, feelings. Let the past and the future fade away, stay in the present. And in the next moment, and the next. Notice what happens to your mind and body. When you turn your attention inwards (mind and body) it will always reveal the truth of what is going on for you. You may find a calm, stillness that you did not know was possible for you, or your mind may try to distract you back to its incessant loop of fear, doubt and judgement. In truth, your mind can be your master or your slave.

If you have allowed it free rein, it will run down rabbit holes of projected fearful consequences and give you no peace. But the mind will respond to your instruction if you decide to give it positive directions on what to think and how to positively support your life. You will need to reinforce these messages frequently for a while, until the new directions get really embedded. The point is that it is possible for you to master your mind, not be it's slave.

I give you my story as food for thought. You may learn from my mistake, but the likelihood is that you will need to experience the lessons that are important to your self-development in a shape and form that is appropriate for you.

So I am working on checking out of the unrealistic busy-ness of life, finding a balance that is comfortable, practical and still stimulating. It is definitely still work in progress, the old patterns take time to die away but this is my intention. I encourage you to make conscious choices that support your own health and well-being. Often there are more choices available than we realise or are willing to consider. Be the master, or be the slave. Which is it?

Oils For Detox

Posted on 3 January, 2016 at 14:23 Comments comments (34)
Detox January!

Happy New Year to you all, I hope it brings the highest and best for you. This month I thought I would write about how to use essential oils to help detox your body, as most of us get over-tired and over-indulge over the Christmas period!

The best way to do this is to use the oils on your skin, as they very quickly get absorbed into the blood stream where they are transported and used by the body to give various health benefits.

A combination I like to use is Grapefruit, Geranium and Cedarwood as the aromas combine well together (citrusy, flowery and woody) and their therapeutic properties will really support your detox efforts.

  • Grapefruit - diuretic, blood cleanser & lymphatic stimulant.
  • Geranium - liver  & kidney tonic, diuretic and lymphatic stimulant.
  • Cedarwood - lymphatic decongestant, kidney & spleen-pancreas tonic

To make the oils into a preparation to massage into your skin, the dilution needs to be 2% or less (pregnant ladies should always consult a trained aromatherapist before using, as some oils are contra-indicated either in early pregnancy or altogether and the dilution needs to be lower).

A 2% dilution is roughly 4 - 5 drops in total in 10ml of cream or oil (so one drop each of Geranium and Cedarwood and two-three drops of Grapefruit).
You can also use this dilution to soak in the bath, and the addition of a cup of Epsom salts will also help your body to release toxins and take in essential minerals from the salt.

To really nurture your body, a relaxing aromatherapy massage will not only help you to detox but also sooth your muscles, tone your skin and calm the nervous system. Taking the time out to deeply relax allows your body to catch up with its essential repair and regeneration processes, which get neglected when we get overtired and stressed by life's challenges.

You can be assured of a good night's sleep afterwards too!  

A Blueprint For Health And Happiness

Posted on 12 October, 2015 at 10:43 Comments comments (117)
A blueprint for health and happiness

In my search for the truth about staying healthy and happy I have discovered that there are a number of important components:
  • emotional, mental and spiritual well being
  • good nutrition
  • good hydration
  • regular exercise
  • good self-care
  • a healthy environment

Emotional Health And Well-Being
When you acknowledge and stay present to how you are feeling emotionally (happy, sad, irritated or anxious) you then have more opportunity to find a way of dealing with these emotions in a healthy way and a better chance of influencing how you experience similar events in future.

All emotions are bio chemicals (e.g. endorphins are the so called 'happy' hormones, cortisol is fear) and if you suppress emotion, these bio chemicals are not able to flow freely and be released from your system as they should. Scientific research has shown that when emotions are suppressed, those bio chemicals block the cell receptors (gateways) in the various tissues of the body and prevent the free flow of information and instructions that contribute towards growth and maintaining health. Furthermore, when negative emotions are suppressed over a long period of time, this dysfunction at a cellular level may result in illness or disease because the body is not able to maintain its state of healthy balance. 

React Or Respond?
Sir Frances Bacon once said 'Knowledge itself is power' and the reason for this is that if you are clear about a fact, e.g. how you are feeling, it gives you choice about how to respond rather than being driven by automatic, unconscious reactions.
Self-awareness gives you choice: to carry on with things as they are (where you have no influence to change the current situation; in which case, can you find some way of accepting what cannot be changed?),  or to assess what actions you could take to improve the situation (there is often more scope than you might think).

Thinking positively
Have you ever observed the quality of your thoughts?Are they on the whole positive or negative? The quality of your thoughts will either enhance your mood and raise your energy level, or just the opposite. If you have supportive, encouraging, inspiring thoughts about yourself and how you respond to life, it is likely to make you feel more energised and ready for action. Conversely if you are constantly self-critical and judgemental about yourself,  it is likely to make you feel less energised, more tired and de-motivated.

Fake It And You'll Make It! 
Scientific research has shown that even by simulating an emotion the body chemistry changes. In fact, smiling and laughter therapy are now recognised therapeutically in alternative medicine.  This is because the mind/body feedback loop works both ways. So if you feel happy, your face automatically smiles as a result, but pulling your face into a smile and laughing for no reason also results in you feeling happier.

The Power of Positive Thinking
Positive thinking also changes your brain in a very real physical way. The science is called 'Neuroplasticity' which means that our thoughts can change the structure and function of our brains. Scientists are now proving that our brains are endlessly adaptable and dynamic.
Even those people with severe neurological disorders (e.g. strokes and cerebral palsy) can train other areas of their brains through repetitive mental and physical activities in a completely life-enhancing way.
It means that repetitive positive thought and positive activity can rewire your brain (literally build new neural pathways) and strengthen brain areas that stimulate positive feelings.
Henry Ford, who founded the Ford Motor Company expressed this very well when he said: 'Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right'!
The good news is that if you consistently feed your mind a diet of positive supportive thoughts, it will look for evidence to support this and the domino effect will be a progressively more joyful life experience! You are consciously retraining and rewiring your mind

The most important part of reversing negative thinking is to state what it is that you want for yourself and your life, not what you don't want. Scientific research in the field of Quantum Physics has demonstrated that what you put your attention on most consistently is what solidifies into existence in your life. 

Physical well-being
The health of your physical body will always reflect how well or otherwise you nourish yourself (and remember, nourishment includes nutrition, exercise, emotional, mental and spiritual elements ).
Your body is made up of many parts that work together as a complete system to help you stay healthy. The body's control centre (the brain) does an amazing job of maintaining an overall state of balance by monitoring and regulating all of the variable factors such as levels of hydration, blood sugar, temperature etc. When you do not give your body the right quality and quantity of nourishment it has to use up valuable resources just to maintain balance, leaving little left for repair and regeneration tasks.

Diet Affects Physical Well-Being
The World Health Organisation (WHO) says that unhealthy diets and physical inactivity are among some of the leading causes of non-communicable diseases (NCDs) including cardiovascular diseases (CVD), type 2 diabetes and certain cancers.

Putting good nutrients into your body is so important because your organs and tissues need the right mix to support all of the chemical processes involved in building, maintaining and sustaining a strong, healthy body. Without this you are more prone to disease, infection, fatigue and poor performance. It is much the same as putting poor quality fuel into a car and expecting it to perform well.

A well-balanced diet includes low calorie, nutrient dense fresh unprocessed foods from all the food groups:

Complex carbohydrates, essential fats, amino acids, vitamins, minerals and water.

Physical inactivity and unhealthy diets are major contributors to excess weight and obesity. But did you also realise that extra body weight also increases the risk of serious health conditions such as:

  • Heart disease and stroke
  • Diabetes
  • Breast, colon and endometrial cancers

Diet Affects Mental Well-Being

'People who eat a well-balanced diet are more physically motivated and able to think more clearly, they feel better and are generally in better health', online health & well-being website Medline Plus says.

Get Hydrated! 
Good hydration is really important. Our bodies are made up of  60 - 70% water as most of the chemical reactions that happen in our cells need water in order to take place. It is used in all of the life giving processes that are carried out every second such as regulating blood pressure and body temperature, hydration and digestion. Water is an essential carrier to enable our blood to transport nutrients around the body and get rid of waste. 

Did you know that it has been medically proven that just a 5% drop in fluid levels can result in a 25 - 30% loss of available energy.The symptoms of dehydration include thirst, headache, tiredness, dark urine, confusion, dry skin, irritability.

How Much Should I Drink?
The European Food Safety Authority recommends that women should drink about 1.6 litres of fluid (8 glasses of 200ml) and men should drink about 2 litres (10 glasses of 200ml) per day. But take into account factors such as size, the temperature and activity levels as these will affect how much is right for each person(e.g. someone exercising hard will need more hydration).   

Your energy comes from the nutrition you put into your body, how well you look after it and also importantly; how you deal with your emotions. When you suppress strong emotions it uses up a lot of energy as explained above.
Your emotions and thoughts also create a vibrational energy that some people say they can sense from others. Humans are sensory beings. We pick up information from our surrounding environment and there is an internal response in the form of an emotional (bio chemical) reaction as a result.  
Have a think about which activities, situations and people seem to drain you and which noticeably boost your energy levels and/or mood.

Becoming more aware of the typical situations or people that have the capacity to either boost or drain you is the first step in starting to manage your subtle energy levels better. 

Move Your Body! 
Our bodies are finely balanced and complex mechanisms, built for regular movement! Put simply, the body is a series of pumps, valves and tubes that functions best when all moving parts are regularly exercised, it is fed with high quality fuel and kept hydrated. 

The World Health Organisation (WHO) says that: 'Physical inactivity is now the fourth leading risk factor for (global) mortality.

A United States study indicated that greater daily time spent sitting results in increased risks of mortality from all causes (even when it is compensated for by regular exercise). This suggests that it is not enough to do regular exercise if you have a sedentary job. It is vitally important to the proper functioning of your bodily processes that you regularly get up and move around! 

The Stress Response
Sometimes you may chose to override tiredness or excessive pressure in order to cope with the challenges of life or work. Your body will keep supporting you in the tasks you have to perform, until the urgency is over and it can finally relax and rebalance. The problem comes if you find yourself running from one 'emergency' to the next or the pressure is constant, because the body never gets a chance to switch off properly and recuperate. You are essentially over-stretching or 'stressing' your body's capabilities.

Eventually you will become more and more depleted, because your body will switch to maintaining only the essential functions and suspend maintenance and repair tasks during the period of stress  in order to conserve energy. So find any opportunities to rest and allow your body to recuperate, it will support you better in the long run that way. 


Is your home and your work environment a healthy one? Do you get enough fresh air, light, comfortable surroundings, space? Are your interactions with others in your home and at work peaceful and supportive or fractious and challenging?
We process information from our surroundings all the time. If the external signals are stressful in some way, our bodies have to work harder to maintain balance. Some things might be out of your control to change, but look for what you can influence in order to create a more pleasant environment for yourself. 

Listen To Your Body!
What I would like to bring your attention to is that your body is communicating with you all the time. It tells you it is tired, happy, needs food etc. So take notice and listen when it gives you pain or discomfort. It is trying to get your attention about something.

Keep Your Body Bank Account Healthy!
Your body is your most important bank account. If you keep making withdrawals in the form of working it too hard and depriving it of good self care and don't put back credits into your account in the form of rest, recuperation, recreation and good food, your account will become overdrawn and your body unhealthy.

In Summary..
Respect your body. It is the vehicle that allows you to experience this physical world. Treat it well, maintain it as you would your home or car, put good nourishment into it and it will serve you well.

Live consciously - observe the quality of your thoughts, your interactions with life and others, what you spend your time on and where you put your focus. 

Nourish your soul as well as your stomach! We are driven by both our material needs and also our spiritual needs. Material success means nothing if the spiritual element of ourselves is not nurtured too, we will always feel that there is something missing in our lives.. Find out what you are passionate about - what makes your heart sing and make sure you include it regularly in your life!
1. Molecules Of Emotion - Candace B. Pert PH.D, 23-24, 243,285-286
2. I Y Me - David Hamilton, 47-48 and C.L. Kleinke, T.R. Peterson and T.R Rutledge, Effects of self-generated facial expressions on mood', Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 1998, 74(1), 272-9.

3. Too Much Sitting: The Population-Health Science of Sedentary Behavior- PMC3404815, Neville OwenGeneviève N Healy, Charles E. Matthews, and David W. Dunstan

Limiting, negative, disempowering beliefs

Posted on 2 January, 2015 at 14:05 Comments comments (165)
The concepts referred to in my earlier post on 'Time' are actually based on research and observations by scientists such as Bruce Lipton PhD who wrote 'The Biology of Belief'. He observed that the sub-conscious mind is a repository of stimulus/response tapes derived from instincts and learned experiences when we are just small children. Researchers at Kyoto University's Primate Research Institute found that baby chimps learn simply by observing their mothers behaviour. The conclusion reached was that in human children also, the fundamental behaviours, beliefs and attitudes we observe in our parents become 'hard-wired' as synaptic pathways in our sub-conscious minds.

As children, we do not come with a manual on how to deal with new experiences and so our interpretation of life is based on a very limited knowledge base and the opinions, prejudices and beliefs of those in our environment. The sub-conscious mind is like a programmable 'hard drive' into which our life experiences are downloaded to produce automatically generated 'stimulus-response' behaviours.
It will play the same behavioural responses to life's signals over and over again throughout our life, despite our conscious, adult mind knowing that the behaviour is unhealthy. 

The good news is that new developments in energy psychology or 'neuro-linguistic programming' have demonstrated that it is possible to access the original memory of the life event that caused the unhealthy behaviour programming, release the emotional charge holding it in place and reprogramme in more healthy and resourceful behaviours and beliefs. Journey work makes use of this technique also.

The underpinning negative beliefs held in our sub-conscious mind are also responsible for sabotaging our potential for success, happiness and good health; because however much our conscious mind may wish these things for ourselves, if the underlying programming contradicts this there will always be a degree of resistance and the sub-conscious mind will relentlessly continue with its automatically programmed responses.

Hence if the underlying belief is that 'there is never enough time', we will be sub-consciously drawn towards a set of circumstances that confirms this! Research in Quantum physics also supports this; demonstrating the power of thoughts to physically influence events and outcomes. (Ref: 'Its The Thought That Counts' by David R. Hamilton PhD). 

Stay Awake

Posted on 5 November, 2014 at 18:13 Comments comments (35)
A light in the darkness, beckoning you - come this way. 
If the light illuminates your path, it is for you
Follow where it leads. 
I cannot promise that you will like all that you see, 
for there are many demons to face along the way. 
But every demon bears a gift for you..
If you can but see it. 
Find the gift and celebrate the new richness
it brings to your life. 

There will be stormy seas to cross,
And barren lands to travel through. 
There will be mirages of promised lands, 
which will vanish before your eyes. 
And if you stay awake, you will find that 
truth and clarity begin to appear, 
that now there is more light than darkness, 
more joy than pain. 
A chance to conduct the orchestra of your life
and create beautiful symphonies.
A chance to live a blessed life - to choose this. 
Stay Awake, Follow The Light. 

A New Dawn, A New Day

Posted on 5 November, 2014 at 18:05 Comments comments (12)
A New Dawn, A New Day

Let all thoughts of negativity go,
Release yourself into the flow
Of life, of love, of gifts and things,
Be ready to see what life will bring.
What magic appears upon the screen,
Its yours to have, forget what's been. 
Rewrite the script, new cast, new stage,
Beautiful characters on the page. 
Starting now, begin again. 
The past is done, transmute the pain. 
New dawn, new day, rebirth for you, 
Let freedom bring new energy too. 
A life well lived, with joy and passion, 
A chance to start a brand new fashion!
Who will you be, from this place of peace?
The choice is yours, all fears released. 
Out with the old, in with the new, 
Re-invented, authentic and true!

S. Lindon November 2014


Posted on 23 October, 2013 at 10:47 Comments comments (26)
Time.. all have the same amount of hours in the day, yet some of us seem to have more free time available than others! How much of this is self-inflicted and how much is unavoidable? 

I always seem to be in a hurry, no matter how much free time was originally available; so I ask myself is this a belief I have that there is never enough time, so that sub-consciously I fritter away any extra time I have to ensure that my belief always holds true!

Beliefs are very powerful. They are formed when we have a strong emotional response to an event and are not able to healthily express these feelings. As a result we formulate new 'rules' for ourselves to keep us 'safe' in future, and these sit in our sub-conscious, driving our behaviour in ways that may not be truly supportive to our best interests. Its like having a virus in our computer programming, silently sabotaging our ability to be truly happy and successful. 

The good news is that Journey work is really effective at pin-pointing the life experience that caused the unsupportive behaviours and clearing them out, so that the deepest truth and truly supportive beliefs can now become our new operating system! 

If you know that there are unhealthy behaviours holding you back from true happiness and success, contact me for a chat to see if Journey work is right for you. Call: 07711 382117