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When Its Just Not Happening, Look For The Reason Why
| Posted on 27 April, 2019 at 15:14 |
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 Is there something that is just not happening in your life
that you want so badly? My experience of life is that there is always a good
reason why things are not happening as you would wish. My belief is that life,
the universe, God or whatever you may call the creative force behind our
reality has always got our best interests at heart,
even when it involves us learning hard or painful lessons. The saying 'every
cloud has a silver lining' has been proven to be true over and over again, even
with deeply painful experiences. If you are being held in job, relationship or situation that you would rather not be in, find out what there is to learn about yourself
or what deeper wisdom could be trying to reveal itself. We often think that 'if
I could just be in a different job, relationship or situation, I would be much
happier'. However the problems you perceive will surely follow you wherever
you go because they are caused from
within. We attract the reality that matches our own beliefs; so if you believe
that people are unkind, that is what you will experience. If you believe
that you are unlovable, you are unlikely to experience true, abiding love in
your life. If you believe that true happiness is unachievable, guess what..? Beliefs are laid down very early in life, before the age of
7. They are then added to and modified by repetition and the
creation of habits. They can be positive beliefs, such as 'I can achieve anything I put my mind to'
or limiting beliefs such as 'I can never get anything right' or
'I am unlovable'. Either way, you will attract what you believe in, because
that is how your brain is wired. The Reticular Activating
System or RAS as it is also known is the part of your brain that takes what you
focus on most (i.e. what you have told it is important to you) and creates a
filter for it. So that out of the trillions of pieces of information that it
filters every day, it only presents to your conscious mind the bits important
to you. Or in other words, in an infinite field of possibilities, you will only
get what you expect to get. You may be aware of some of the self-sabotaging
beliefs you hold , but some you may not
be aware of because they are buried deep in your subconscious mind. The best
indicator is to look at where your life flows well and the areas where it does
not flow well. The latter is a strong indicator that there are limiting beliefs
operating. It is important at this point to note that you
can change that subconscious programming. The Journey™ method
developed by Brandon Bays is one very effective way of getting to the core life
experience that set the limiting beliefs in play and realising that they are
outdated and no longer serve you well. Through conscious intervention with the
subconscious mind, you can then access the deeper, more empowering truth about
your own inner potential and this becomes the new operating system for the RAS.
So if you are willing to do the internal personal
development work to discover what is truly holding you back the silver lining is
that you discover a deeper, richer, more empowering version of yourself which
in turn will enrich your life experiences from that point. Sometimes it seems that life throws us a curve ball, just
when we were enjoying our current life situation. It may be difficult for a
while to see the justice or the benefit in what may appear a cruel or
unnecessary turn of events. We may struggle to let go of the version of reality
that we had so invested in, to see the benefits of what it is being replaced
with. I think it is useful to look to the natural world in these situations and
understand that nature creates, forms, brings to fruition many beautiful states
of reality. Then in the natural course of the cycle, it breaks down, destroys,
lays fallow and then starts the whole creation process again. We are also
organic creatures, part of the energy flow of creation and as much a part of
this creative cycle as the natural world. I see that when one form of reality
has run its course or served its purpose, a higher consciousness then steps in
to break that down or remove it from us, so that a new opportunity for growth
and nurturing can arise. I have observed this with both natural and personal
disasters; it often brings out the kindness in people's natures, motivates new
ventures for the greater good of the self or humanity and highlights what needs to change
in order to bring about a better world. It may be difficult to see the benefit in for example losing
a life partner, parent or family member, we may feel angry or devastated about
this loss and it is important to honour these feelings and take the time to
grieve. In this way, we allow our natural emotions to flow through us and be
released. When we do not allow our emotions to be expressed; if we avoid them
or distract ourselves, they interrupt the natural biochemistry of the body,
causing blockages at a cellular level which can eventually result in
dysfunction of the body, illness or disease. The natural programming of the
body is to maintain homeostasis or balance in all of its functions at a
physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. The only thing that prevents
this balance is when we hold onto versions of our story from the past, or
future versions of our story that we would like to materialise. Non acceptance
of 'what is' is like having an argument with reality. it keeps us in resistance
and as the saying goes: 'what we resist, will persist'! (Carl Jung). It's the
same principle as 'what you focus on the most is what you attract more of'. So
take the time to honour and grieve for your loved ones, then lovingly make the
decision when it feels right for you, to move on with your life. Not moving on
is like a form of self-abuse, to refuse to look for happiness in your life
points to deeply self-sabotaging emotional drivers that are keeping you trapped
in this state - something to reflect on if this applies to you. So to return to my original point that I believe there is a purpose
for the greater good in everything that either happens or doesn't happen; it
may take some time maybe even years for that greater purpose to become
apparent. However if you are willing to suspend judgement and focus on what's
good in your life, you will find true peace of mind and happiness in each
moment. Go well, may you find the peace and happiness in your life that you truly deserve. References 1. Bruce Lipton talking about this: https://www.brucelipton.com/blog/4-ways-change-your-thought) 2. There are also lots of other useful resources here: https://www.brucelipton.com/other-resources#belief-change |
Navigating the Gap
| Posted on 3 December, 2018 at 15:40 |
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 An unexpected and slightly uncomfortable phenomenon has
overshadowed me for the last couple of years..as a complementary therapist, I
went from knowing what my calling in life was, to suddenly finding that all the
enthusiasm and passion had disappeared. I no longer felt motivated to offer
healing treatments, which had for a long time been such an important part of my
own sense of purpose. This was confusing, dismaying and left me feeling
directionless, without a purpose in life. It started with a growing awareness in quiet moments that
what I was doing no longer felt fulfilling to me. It could be that I just needed
to take a break and refresh my perspective on things. But I also sensed at a deeper level that this felt more like something
in my being was in transition, evolving. It felt like it was time to explore
new experiences, investigate the deeper meaning of life. The wisdom I was following said that in order to find true fulfilment
in life, find your passion and follow it - follow your joy. The reason for this is because your passion
and joy are powered by intention, attention and motivation - all of which
provide the powerhouse leading to that sense of fulfilment. Always one to be curious about life and to embrace new ideas, I set myself on a quest to follow the
direction of my attention, my passion and joy to find out where it was leading
me. I was becoming more aware that everything is energy in some
form or another, so the key to health, well being and happiness must lie with
understanding and managing our own personal energy and how we relate to
everything in our environment. I felt strongly drawn to take part in a 'Sacred Chants and Shamanic
Wisdom' expedition in Peru that came to my attention. Shamanism
is an ancient healing tradition and moreover, a way of life. It is a way
to connect with nature and all of creation. One of the key aspects of
Shamanic wisdom is the use of 'energy medicine'. The shamans throughout the
ages knew how to heal using a holistic approach long before what they were
doing could be explained by science. They knew how to live in harmony with the
natural environment and how important it is to do so. We are all part of the
same ecosystem; disrupt one part and there is a knock on effect to the other
parts. So I took up this opportunity and had the most amazing, heart opening,
inspiring time that I feel has shifted my energy and opened my awareness in a
very positive way. Each day we were taking part in sacred ceremony which
honoured the earth, sky, all four directions, ourselves and all the creatures
that live upon this earth. We were consciously deciding what within ourselves
we were ready to let go of, that was not serving us well and what healthy
states of being we would like to welcome in. The process was deeply cathartic,
very moving and felt very liberating. Each day we were also taking part in sacred chants and mantra
concerts. Jonathan Goldman, in his book Healing Sounds, talks about a
formula for sound healing: Intention + Frequency = Healing. When a person sings
mantras, the essence of their entire vibration is contained in the sound and
acts like a homeopathic remedy to the group and even to the world. The
frequency of sound moves in concentric circles out from its origin and affects
the vibration of anyone in the field. Chanting mantras stimulates the
endocrine system; the act of your tongue pressing against the palate
of the mouth stimulates the hypothalamus, thalamus, and pituitary. This
vibration releases chemical hormones that balance the body and have healing
effects. All sound has an effect on your molecular structure. How could one fail to be affected positively by
this week of what I can only describe as blissful experience? The content was a
wonderful fusion of wisdom and experiences from the ancient tribes of the
Amazon and the mantras of the Hindu Vedic tradition. Both traditions
acknowledge that to maintain health and well being, we need to engage with the
more subtler energies within us and around us. This was just what I had been
becoming aware of for the past year; that energy medicine is the key to the
future health and wholeness of every living being, creature and the natural
world on this planet. Later in the summer I also felt drawn to take some time
living 'off grid' at the Lammas eco village in West Wales. My whole being
seemed to yearn for more connection with the natural world, the opportunity to
live closer to nature; I knew that such moments in the past had filled me with
such a joy to be alive that this must be very important to my physical and
emotional well being. During my time there, I worked on the land, contributed and
felt part of a community and took part in an amazing full moon campfire music
jam. All of this experience was speaking to me very strongly about the sort of
environment, activities and people that make my heart sing and feed my soul.
The physical and mental effect on my body was noticeable - I felt energised,
inspired and buzzing with joy. As the summer drew to a close, I felt a glow of inspiration
that perhaps West Wales could be my spiritual home and somewhere I would want
to be living. Then the fear and doubt crept in! What if.. what if.. what
if... my balloon of happiness felt quite deflated! Yet the option to do nothing
and stay in my present home, surrounded by buildings, roads, cars, traffic also
feels untenable. So one thing I do know for certain; to nourish and give
sustenance to my body and being, my dearest wish is to live in a more rural,
less congested environment, connect more with like minded people and I intend
to make that happen. West Wales is a long way from my own family, I have many
moments of wondering whether I am crazy to be even contemplating such a move
and yet I also know I have to be true to my own heart in order to live the most
fulfilling life. So until I can see my way forward clearly, I am staying
focused on the kind of environment, home, life and community I would like for
myself and look for all the opportunities in the present to experience that
joyfulness. I am also happy to find that my passion for helping people to feel better and heal has returned. Sometimes you have to go away from something in order to come back more fully appreciating its value and able to bring a new depth to the experience. I feel that there will be new services to offer in the future and that my healing work can have more depth and creativity now. I also keep on preparing and clearing my home for a move. Past
experience has shown me that if I continue to mentally 'cast my net out' in
terms of research, enquiries and testing things out, sooner or later the
solution will appear. It is a fact of quantum physics that what you put your
attention on most frequently and clearly will manifest in your physical reality
(don't take my word for it, check it out). Deepak Chopra talks about how 'the brain strengthens
or weakens in specific areas depending on the input it receives, and paying
attention provides concentrated input'. He also said that there are some basic
requirements to be met. The first is being centred as distraction is
self-defeating. Secondly, awareness focuses naturally when you have a desire; we
focus on what we want. Thirdly, attention works best when combined with
intention – envisioning a way to fulfil your desire. When the three ingredients
come together – you are centred, you have a desire, you intend to fulfil your
desire – attention becomes extremely powerful. Then your reticular activating system can get to
work finding the answer to your desire and intention..whaat?? I hear you
say! The RAS as it is also known is the
part of your brain that takes what you focus on most (i.e. what you have told
it is important to you) and creates a filter for it. So that out of the
trillions of pieces of information that it filters every day, it only presents
to your conscious mind the bits important to you. Pretty cool huh?! That is why
when you buy a new car, you suddenly see all the other cars on the road that
are the same as yours. Or why you can tune out a noisy room of people, but hear
your own name being called. Once you know this, you can begin to consciously
influence your RAS to find what you are looking for. There is a way to
consciously influence your reality, when you stay focused on what you desire
for yourself. Lynne McTaggart, best selling author and renowned authority on
the power of Intention advises that there are a number of factors that will give
your intentions the best chance of success; practise staying focused, be
specific in what you are asking for, mentally rehearse & visualise the
outcome with all of your five senses, believe in the process, keep
firmly fixed in your mind your desired outcome and stay positive. Then move
aside and let the universe sort it out. All of this scientific research and knowledge gives
me reassurance that I really can be master of my destiny if I follow the principles
outlined above. In my own experience, it is very important not to be swayed or
negatively influenced by the seeming impossibility of your intention, or the
absence of a visible solution. The Universe really does move in mysterious ways
and many seemingly impossible situations have resolved themselves quite
unexpectedly when there is a strong enough desire for something. And in the
meantime it is very important to focus on the positives in the present
situation and the joys, of which there are many to be found if you but look! I hope you can see some parallels in my story applicable in your own life and that it may help you to review any changes you would like to make to stay true to your own sense of purpose. Go well, be happy, love life. Write your post here. |
The Rush Of Life
| Posted on 9 March, 2016 at 17:01 |
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 We are all in such a rush these days - I've just driven home
in rush hour traffic, where everyone on the road was in a tearing hurry to get
somewhere and woe betide anyone in their way! The theme of always seeming to be in a rush has come up
strongly for me recently. A few weeks ago I was given a very salutary lesson in
just what the consequences can be when the car in front of me unexpectedly
stood on the brakes and I was very quickly made aware of what happens when you
dont keep a safe stopping distance behind! The inevitable crunch happened, no-one
hurt thank goodness but the upshot was that my car was written off as
uneconomical to repair. The impact not only on my beautiful car which I loved, but
on my daily life over the last few weeks has been enormous. From the strong
emotions this incident has thrown up, to the practicalities of having to find
another car and stay mobile because my work and leisure activities depend on it,
there have been many repercussions. And yet my inner wisdom knows that this sledgehammer event
came to teach me a great lesson, something that I have actually wished for; to be
able to live from a place of inner peace and tranquility whatever is happening
externally. I wished for the ability to truly take life in my stride and not be
drawn into self-imposed conditions which themselves create unnecessary
pressures in life. So when I view this incident 'from the balcony', the picture
opens out and I can see that the teaching it brings is deep. It brings my
attention to a realisation that inner peace comes from a slowing down so that
each moment can be enjoyed on its own merit. Stuck in traffic? Late for an
appointment? Accept it.. enjoy the opportunity it brings to listen to some
lovely music or tune into your body/mind. The mind/body gets lonely when you
dont pay it attention to it you know!
When you don't listen to the vital messages it tries to communicate to you
about the state of your own life, health and well-being. When we rush through life, we fail to enjoy the only moment
that really matters - this moment. Think about it - the only problems we truly
have are all either in the past (and we still torture ourselves with them time
and time again!) or in the future (screenplays we run of fearful events that
probably won't even happen)! Try it now. Focus your attention on this moment; the sounds,
scents, images, feelings. Let the past and the future fade away, stay in the
present. And in the next moment, and the next. Notice what happens to your mind
and body. When you turn your attention inwards (mind and body) it will always reveal
the truth of what is going on for you. You may find a calm, stillness that you
did not know was possible for you, or your mind may try to distract you back to
its incessant loop of fear, doubt and judgement. In truth, your mind can be
your master or your slave. If you have allowed it free rein, it will run down rabbit
holes of projected fearful consequences and give you no peace. But the mind
will respond to your instruction if you decide to give it positive directions
on what to think and how to positively support your life. You will need to
reinforce these messages frequently for a while, until the new directions get
really embedded. The point is that it is possible for you to master your mind,
not be it's slave. I give you my story as food for thought. You may learn from
my mistake, but the likelihood is that you will need to experience the lessons
that are important to your self-development in a shape and form that is appropriate
for you. So I am working on checking out of the unrealistic busy-ness
of life, finding a balance that is comfortable, practical and still stimulating.
It is definitely still work in progress, the old patterns take time to die away
but this is my intention. I encourage you to make conscious choices that
support your own health and well-being. Often there are more choices available
than we realise or are willing to consider. Be the master, or be the slave.
Which is it? |
Stay Awake
| Posted on 5 November, 2014 at 18:13 |
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 A light in the darkness, beckoning you - come this way. If the light illuminates your path, it is for you Follow where it leads. I cannot promise that you will like all that you see, for there are many demons to face along the way. But every demon bears a gift for you.. If you can but see it. Find the gift and celebrate the new richness it brings to your life. There will be stormy seas to cross, And barren lands to travel through. There will be mirages of promised lands, which will vanish before your eyes. And if you stay awake, you will find that truth and clarity begin to appear, that now there is more light than darkness, more joy than pain. A chance to conduct the orchestra of your life and create beautiful symphonies. A chance to live a blessed life - to choose this. Stay Awake, Follow The Light. |
A New Dawn, A New Day
| Posted on 5 November, 2014 at 18:05 |
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 A New Dawn, A New Day Let all thoughts of negativity go, Release yourself into the flow Of life, of love, of gifts and things, Be ready to see what life will bring. What magic appears upon the screen, Its yours to have, forget what's been. Rewrite the script, new cast, new stage, Beautiful characters on the page. Starting now, begin again. The past is done, transmute the pain. New dawn, new day, rebirth for you, Let freedom bring new energy too. A life well lived, with joy and passion, A chance to start a brand new fashion! Who will you be, from this place of peace? The choice is yours, all fears released. Out with the old, in with the new, Re-invented, authentic and true! S. Lindon November 2014 |